Horses reveal so much about us, especially things we are unaware of. They seem to hear our thoughts, watch our body language, and pick up the fears we try to hide and also the happiness and joy we feel inside. How can we use this wonderful ability to improve our relationship with our horse? Horses love congruency. The more congruent we are, being honest and true with ourselves the better our communication will be. The challenge here is that sometimes we don’t even know how we are feeling, we just feel off. We may be distracted, finding it difficult to center ourselves into our body and our great power. And of course, congruency is not possible at all times, we are complex human beings and sometimes we have ambivalent feelings. This is normal.
So what to do? It doesn’t help a lot to try to disguise our fears. Our horses will know and wonder what they should be afraid of. They may start looking around for the gremlin or get spooky falling into fight or flight. A better way is to learn to really understand our worries, accept them as normal and process them with ourselves. Then we can move into a stronger more aware state of mind. By exploring our true feelings, we have the power to transform them. This is like cleaning out a cluttered closet. We discover what is in there, examining each thing to determine what we want to do with it all. Then things start to change inside for us. Fear and nervousness can be reframed into excitement, challenge or anticipation. Perhaps we shied away from something and we now say, “Bring it.”
Fortunately we can seek support to make this happen. There are tools available for us. Hypnotherapy offers a way to reach and communicate with our unconscious mind where worries tend to hide away. A good coach can help us find a path to the source of our struggle. Be open to exploring your fears and challenges, your hopes and dreams. It is time for spring cleaning those closets filled with things we no longer need. Summer is approaching. Let’s have a great riding season as we center ourselves in our power and create magic with our horses.
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